Love: Organic Style. Rethinking our Relationships!

At Rejuice we love organic whole foods because they are grown without pesticide sprays and other harmful chemicals. And in its highest application, organic food has no synthetic fertilizers or artificial dyes, nothing extra that's not required and it's handled in a way that preserves some of the integrity of what nature created.
Going organic is about honoring the reality that sustainability can only occur if the relationship between the land and the people is healthy. And that we acknowledge the connection between ecology (the "study of home") and the health of the people who live in that home.
Why not extend that same philosophy to our relationships? Why not have organic relationships, free of the toxic fillers that degrade the quality of our precious time here on earth. Non organic relationships, the kind marketed to us as aggressively as processed foods, are based on possession, fear, superficial structures, oppressive and negative ideas, that result in emotionally undernourished people. And so our world is filled with angry lovers, spreading their emotional toxins. 
It does not have to be this way. That is the beauty of our species, we can change our environment both externally and internally. 
The solution: organic love! Love that is closest to our true nature. That follows the same principles of sustainability and ethics of organic foods.  

When we feed and support our own happiness, we are nourishing our ability to love. That’s why to love means to learn the art of nourishing our happiness. Understanding someone’s suffering is the best gift you can give another person. Understanding is love’s other name. If you don’t understand, you can’t love. 

Zen Buddhist Teacher Thich Nhat Hanh

Organic love recognizes that it is in our best interest as human beings to respect and nourish the lives around us, as we respect and nourish our own. To feel deeply the pain of others, as pain and suffering is a universal phenomenon and it helps to explain our connection to others. Empathy teaches you understanding.

Be kind, for everyone you meet is carrying a great burden. 

The following 10 ways to strengthen your love from www.tinybuddha.com align with the principles of organic love. Like organic foods these tips emphasize wholeness, moving away from toxicity, cultivating a healthy terrain, understanding the natural ebb and flow of time, and letting nature take its course.
 
Use relationships to teach you how to be whole within.
Relationships aren’t about having another person complete you, but coming to the relationship whole and sharing your life interdependently. By letting go of the romantic ideal of merging and becoming “one,” you learn as Rainer Maria Rilke says, to love the distances in relationship as much as the togetherness.
 See your partner for who he or she really is.
The romantic tragedy occurs when you view the person you are in love with as a symbol of what they have come to represent, the idea of them. When you realize that more often than not you don’t really know your partner, you begin to discover who they are and how they change and evolve.
Be willing to learn from each other.
The key is to see the other as a mirror and learn from the reflection how you can be a better person. When you feel upset, rather than blame your partner and point fingers, remain awake to what has yet to be healed in yourself.
 Get comfortable being alone.
In order to accept that love can’t rescue you from being alone, learn to spend time being with yourself. By feeling safe and secure to be on your own within the framework of relationship, you will feel more complete, happy, and whole.
 Look closely at why a fight may begin.
Some couples create separateness by fighting and then making up over and over again. This allows you to continue the romantic trance, creating drama and avoiding real intimacy. If you become aware of what you fear about intimacy, you’ll have a better sense of why you’re fighting—and likely will fight far less.
Own who you are.
We generally grasp at romantic love because we’re yearning for something that is out of reach, something in another person that we don’t think we possess in ourselves. Unfortunately, when we finally get love, we discover that we didn’t get what we were looking for.
True love only exists by loving yourself first. You can only get from another person what you’re willing to give yourself.
 Embrace ordinariness.
After the fairy-dust start of a relationship ends, we discover ordinariness, and we often do everything we can to avoid it. The trick is to see that ordinariness can become the real “juice” of intimacy. The day-to-day loveliness of sharing life with a partner can, and does, become extraordinary.
 Expand your heart.
One thing that unites us is that we all long to be happy. This happiness usually includes the desire to be close to someone in a loving way. To create real intimacy, get in touch with the spaciousness of your heart and bring awareness to what is good within you.It’s easier to recognize the good in your partner when you’re connected to the good in yourself.
Focus on giving love.
Genuine happiness is not about feeling good about ourselves because other people love us; it’s more about how well we have loved ourselves and others. The unintentional outcome of loving others more deeply is that we are loved more deeply.
Let go of expectations.
You may look to things such as romance and constant togetherness to fill a void in yourself. This will immediately cause suffering. If you unconsciously expect to receive love in certain ways to avoid giving that love to yourself, you will put your sense of security in someone else. Draw upon your own inner-resources to offer love, attention, and nurturance to yourself when you need it. Then you can let love come to you instead of putting expectations on what it needs to look like.
 
Love should be like breathing. It should be just a quality in you – wherever you are, with whomsoever you are, or even if you are alone, love goes on overflowing from you. It is not a question of being in love with someone – it is a question of being love. Osho
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